We all are aware of the word ‘Success’. Yet each one of us derives a unique meaning from it.
I have two questions for you:
1) What does success mean to you?
2) How many success instances would you wish to have in your life?
Let me start discussing about the first question: Have you ever asked your family members or colleagues what does success mean to them? Oh wait! have you asked yourself what does that word mean to you? You will get endless answers from each of them which may include – wealth, happiness, societal status, owning a property, entrepreneurship, societal service etc.
The second question which we all need to ponder upon is – how many success instances do we wish to achieve in our life? I am sure many of you feel that being alive at the end of every day is a success. Alternatively, for some, success could be achieving certain milestones of life, for e.g. graduation, postgraduation, marriage, job, buying a house etc.
At the age of 32, I too have gone through some major stages of life, be it acquiring education, finding a job, venturing into entrepreneurship etc.. However, I never felt that I have achieved something. I completed my graduation in engineering and post-graduation in business administration (most common educational degree combo you would find in post-liberalized India). Then I went on to seek admission in a full time doctoral degree. Were these milestones a success? I had a memorable tenure with IIM-A, had good learning experience when I tested entrepreneurship waters and then went on to become a Social Media Strategist in a leading agency. If educational degrees weren’t success, were these professional pit-stops a success?
Many of my friends have tried to convince me in the past that each of these above instances could be considered as successful. However, for some reason I never felt a sense of achievement when any of these happened. If everyone is traveling comfortably on a four lane highway and reaching destination, how am I different from others? By mid-30s, I feel it isn’t really an outstanding achievement to boast about if you end up having a seven digit salary (don’t ask me on which extreme I am – at lower end or high end of seven digit!!!), a car, a house (ofcourse on EMI, unless your father-in-law gifted it) etc. Turn around and almost every 2nd person would have all these. In that case, how can you claim yourself to be successful?
So, can we say that materialistic things fail to sensitize or instigate us with the feeling of success? I have been fortunate to come across some good souls, who even in this highly competitive materialistic world have opted to consider what their heart says.
I would not praise myself but yes I would say with pride that winning the HCL’s #CoolestInterviewEver was the most cherished successful moment of my life. I really felt like I have achieved something on cracking it. Want to know why I felt so? A follow-up blogpost coming soon!
Till then do ask yourself what success means to you!